I heard this read on the radio the other day: "The holes in your life are permanent, you have to learn to grow around them." (Paula Hawkins, The Girl on the Train).
This certainly has been my own experience and it speaks to my role as a social worker, providing real-life support for real-life scenarios rather than individualistic psychotherapy. The certainty, that what I call regressive therapy was not for me, came from deep within. Eventually, through a spell of psychodrama workshops, it came to the fore and gave itself a name - my trust in life; and later - my spirituality. Writers about therapeutic work such diverse as Winnicott, Brandon (Zen in the art of Helping), Viktor Frankl and E.Erickson offered real-life support. And they show that people in crisis can even be helped by pointing out and even enhancing the paradox they are living. That will resonate, and possibly help to move... One quite desperate client said to me years ago: "I trust you because you are not afraid." But then, later, went on to say, there is one thing I can't talk about, not even to you...(so ashamed).." Him I could not help further in the end, but show that the possible way out was there, and was as he said himself 'for real'... I hope he is well. He touched my heart.
This certainly has been my own experience and it speaks to my role as a social worker, providing real-life support for real-life scenarios rather than individualistic psychotherapy. The certainty, that what I call regressive therapy was not for me, came from deep within. Eventually, through a spell of psychodrama workshops, it came to the fore and gave itself a name - my trust in life; and later - my spirituality. Writers about therapeutic work such diverse as Winnicott, Brandon (Zen in the art of Helping), Viktor Frankl and E.Erickson offered real-life support. And they show that people in crisis can even be helped by pointing out and even enhancing the paradox they are living. That will resonate, and possibly help to move... One quite desperate client said to me years ago: "I trust you because you are not afraid." But then, later, went on to say, there is one thing I can't talk about, not even to you...(so ashamed).." Him I could not help further in the end, but show that the possible way out was there, and was as he said himself 'for real'... I hope he is well. He touched my heart.